I see many clients in my coaching practice and each conversation is rich with lightbulbs and inspirational thinking. Obviously, what we discuss is confidential, but many are happy for me to share the concepts and the understanding as they’re relevant to many of us, even if you haven’t taken the issue to coaching yet. They are looking solutions to moving from anxiety to courage.
The conversation I want to share to day is one I had with Janet some time ago. I won’t go through the full details, but we were exploring the main issue of anxiety. She was very able to describe the times when she felt anxious. I helped her tune in to how she knew she felt anxious. It’s an odd question, but one that is so important as without knowing exactly how we’re ‘doing’ something, it’s harder to do it differently.
So, let’s take anxiety – whether or not this is a diagnosis for you, we all feel anxious at times. Sometimes, it’s good to feel anxious as it’s an ancient mechanism designed to keep us safe. But, if the anxiety you feel seems to happen all of the time or at inappropriate times, then it’s not really working for you and it might be time to do things differently.
Wealth of Information
There is a wealth of information on the web about dealing with anxiety, many of which can be really helpful. However, one article I read some time ago simply said;
“just don’t feel anxious’
I can hear many of you say, ‘that would be great!’; ‘tell us how’ etc etc. It sounds simple, doesn’t it? But, the major drawback about this advice is that saying the word ‘don’t’ really just doesn’t help at all. Some of you will have heard me say this before; ‘don’t think about a pink elephant’. And you’re thinking of………. of course! A pink elephant!! So, telling your brain ‘don’t be anxious’ will simply draw your attention to feeling just that! Once you understand that, it’s easy to look at things differently, isn’t it, especially once you know what feeling the opposite is like.
So, next time you want to change how you think about or experience something, perhaps practice what you DO want, not what you DON’T want. Janet described the opposite of anxiety to be courage. It might be different for you, but once she was clear what she was working TOWARDS, it was much easier for her to focus on what that was like and how to get there whenever she wanted to.
You can read the full article on the Life Coach Directory here.